I’ve lived in 7 states in the US. We moved to Rochester 2 years and 3 months ago and still have no one that we can really call friends. In the past we have had many people we’ve considered to be our friends and have socialized and traveled with many of them. My husband and I both work and come in contact with many people every day. We have become active in the community and have met many people. This move to Rochester has been an eye opener and very difficult for us. We have come to the conclusion that many of the folks we know here are natives and have a group of people they’ve known for their entire lives, going to school and working with many of them. Their friendships are long-established and they aren’t in “need” of any new friends. Luckily, we have family members here in town, so we stay busy with them, but it’s really not the same as having a group of friends with whom we could spent time.
I don’t expect any results from this post, but I did want the readers to realize how hard it can be for new people coming to this city. Interestingly, we have heard the same sentiments from other transplants who have come here. Please try to reach out to someone new on occasion.