Sibling fighting

Posted by Tami @tamih70, Feb 10, 2018

I have 2 girls that are 14 months apart. They have a love-hate relationship. They constantly try to talk over each other for my attention, or if one doesn’t like something the other one is doing, the screaming begins. Any suggestions?

@tamih70, I can relate! I have two boys. While they are 3 years apart in age, I totally see their love-hate relationship. While the love part is great, the hate part is difficult to deal with. I am no expert in how to handle this, but I will say the following:
*For the attention part – consider doing things with each of them alone so they feel like they have their special time with you and don’t have to compete for your attention.
*For the dislike of something the other is doing – we try to celebrate (whenever possible) the differences our boys demonstrate. Where they may not choose what the other is doing, we point out why it is meaningful to the other. I try to use it as a teachable moment.

Best of luck!


This is constant in our house. I have 7 year old twin boys and a 5 year old girl. The best thing that has worked for us is alone time. Although this is very challenging, even just 5 minutes can "put money in the bank" for the attention the child gets…and I enjoy it too! Also I would like to normalize your comment. For example, one of my twins said "my life would be so much better if brother wasn't so annoying all the time"…and then then this morning he said how he wanted to wait just one more minute before eating breakfast because he loves snuggling his brother. LOL!


@tamih70 How old are your kids?

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